This is a response to a friend who has difficulty finding balance in his family, his mum and his very own unique identity...
“If you do not connect to this stream of love, you have nothing to give to anybody”.
What you really want is to stand in a place of clarity and love, and from this standpoint, you are able to outpour this love to uplift your family, your mum or anyone. When you are in this state of clarity and love, you will set an example for them. But we do not want you to do it for others. We want it to do it for yourself. Whatever action and behavior that comes from that state of your clarity and love will gravitate them towards their own happiness then.
In other words, just think of this. Can you help a poor man to be rich by you yourself staying or being poor? Most probably not. But if you can get rich yourself first, chances are you are able to set an example to them to get rich too.
You might say “Then should I be neglecting the way they are now”? We do not want you to neglect them but by all means taking a break in this moment to connect yourself back to the stream of love and well-being – a small step at one time.
You may start something like this below… Just take some time and feel at each statement below. Stay there at each statement for a while and see whether you can find a small relief within them or not. Start from the first statement to the last… (Don’t jump to the last statement, ok?)
• I feel bad and powerlessness when I do not know what more I can do to make my mum and my family happy.
• I feel some guilty here to be gay and it seems I have disappointed them in some ways.
• I have been trying my best to make my mum happy but she does not seem to be happy.
• I am currently frustrated whether to continue to do things to uplift my mum or to tend to my own feelings first.
• If they have been in my situation, they will know how I would feel too.
• I wish they know my feeling.
• How I wish myself to able to be straight or maybe do something so that I can help to lighten the situation just a bit.
• I know that they actually have good intentions too to want me to be straight.
• Maybe they just don’t know how gay life is like. But in the hearts, they too sincerely want me to be achieve my happiness.
• But I think it is ok that they do not know it at this point.
• Everybody is different in their thoughts and beliefs.
• As I want to them to respect what I stand for, I am hoping myself to respect their thoughts and beliefs too.
• I think there might be many ways that are able to bring harmony within my mum, my family and me.
• Many gay stories and also personal witness of true stories which I know where their family first started out with some problems with them but in the later stage found harmony and balance.
• Deep in my heart I know I love my mum and family very much.
• In some time, I heard that gay guys are more filial and maybe there are some good things in being gay.
• Anyway, I know that whether I am gay or not, I still love them as they are.
• I know that I am more than being a gay guy here.
• I start to come back to know and remember that I am someone who wants to care, someone who wants to love, someone who wants to uplift the people I hold so dearly so much.
• I believe that God or the Universe have mysterious ways of bringing the bigger picture out in the end of the day.
• Meanwhile, I do not need to sort this out by today.
• Maybe I can sit back and relax and just find anything to do that make myself a little bit happier.
• As I know when I am feeling good and happy, the people around me also will feel light hearted and joyous too.
• I know that they have this stream of happiness and love in their life too.
• I know God and Universe are keep flowing this good lives to them.
• As I am gaining the connection with myself, I believe they will come to connect with their own stream of love too.
• I do not need to explain anything to them.
• Meanwhile by slowly gaining my own connection to this stream of love, they too can learn from me when they are ready.
• When they are ready, the will be willing to open their hearts and see.
• Meanwhile I can take baby steps to connecting to the stream.
• I know that if they are able to find the connection by their own focus, they will learn more
• Perhaps by then, they will begin to be much able to stand on their own feet despite of anything.
• In this way, they will be better in their own life too.
• I think in this way I am doing a great service to them because they can now understand also this stream.
• I definitely wish the best for them and for me and for everyone else that I love.
• I can see that I am someone who sincerely intends good in every single way and to everyone around me.
• I know very truly this is the same for the close people around me.
• They too in their soul know this intention of themselves to want the best for everyone.
• I begin to see them through my soul.
• I so appreciate that they have come to love me in some many different ways.
• I appreciate I have myself have all these lovely parts of me and my soul.
We know God and Universe are always flowing love and well-being to you and your family ya... Don't give up but staying relax and take small steps. Everyone around you will also feel more relax.
You are more than what you know yourself are capable of loving...
*Moving up the emotional scale is a process taught by Abraham Hicks
